Sharon Olds: The Harder Job
The Harder Job
(for Tina and Paul Kane)
Love gives to some the harder job,
to some the easier. And it doesn’t
seem to be those who love the most deeply
who always get the harder job,
or the easier. It isn’t love
which gives us our work, but raw, cold
chance, which may strike the beloved in an instant,
or slowly grind the dearest one
down and down to death—for some,
sure as an execution in the morning, all the
pardons gone, for some it may be
years from now. Meanwhile, extreme
suffering, as in war, without war’s
malice. When you have joined, for life
and beyond it, with the one whose presence
touches you profoundly with your luck, it is not so much
hard to love even more through the worst—
an illness which dismembers, which silences—
as impossible not to. If there were music
for this, it could be a late ferocious
quartet, or an opera—its almost screaming
anguish. It is not a devised torture
to have to watch the dearest one
there was, or is, or will be, lose
everything, attribute by
lovely skill, speech and motion and
eventually breath. And look at him
as he looks at her, it is as if
love is a particulate light,
which his gazes, which the silver fibers of his lashes,
move toward her. And when you look
head-on at him, when his hands are on
the pinion-stubs of her wheelchair handles,
it is like looking at an archway through which
is visible a pure shining,
a power stronger than anything—
unable to heal her, unable to keep her
here, the fierce workings of love—which is
the means by which we exist, and the reason we exist.
Sharon Olds
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